You probably already know that sex toys can be used to improve your sexual wellness and sexual health, but did you know that they can also be used to manifest your desires? The belief in the Law of Attraction (Canfield, 2021) has given rise to many different approaches to manifesting—and using sex toys can be one of the best ways to apply this belief to your life. The way it works is simple: you visualize what you want, then use sex toys during masturbation and orgasm to manifest that thing into your reality.
Sexual wellness and sexual health have become buzzwords in the past few years, with everyone from your local pharmacy to your OB/GYN talking about these concepts. But what do they mean?
Sexual wellness refers to the ability to live a fulfilling sex life that aligns with your values and needs. In contrast, sexual health is concerned with preventing illness through regular screening and prevention methods. It's important to remember that your sexual wellness and sexual health may not be the same thing; as always, check with your doctor if you are unsure how to determine what's best for you specifically.
As an integral part of overall wellness, sexual health can positively impact your mind, body, and spirit. Sex toys are easy to incorporate into a healthy sex life, but they're also beneficial even if you never have sex with another person! Read on to learn more about the sexual benefits of sex toys and how to manifest them in your life.
An overview of the history of sex toys
The use of sex toys has existed since time immemorial. Early sex toys were made of stone, wood, and other plant materials shaped as penises or simple dildos. From handcrafted dildos to glass, metal, rubber, silicone dildos, and vibrators, there have been many ways to enhance sexual experience with sex toys.
The use of sex toys is certainly not a new phenomenon. Early dildos date back as far as ancient China, but there's no way to know who used them and for what purposes (Dawsom, 2020). Even so, it's interesting to imagine that many generations before us enjoyed pleasurable sex toys. Over time, sex toys have evolved in quality and variety (and certainly in type!). As a result, many modern-day options are available in stores or online today.
Determine which sex toy you need based on your needs. Most people have no idea what they want in a sex toy. They may like a certain type of sensation or a particular look or feel but don't know what they desire from their next sex toy. To avoid confusion (and disappointment), it is best to understand what you are looking for before buying your first sex toy. Sometimes, sex toys aren't a one size fits all situation. You may need to try a few before finding one that suits your needs.
Sex tips for women
Sexual wellness isn't just about staying healthy; it's also about staying happy. Here are some ways to manifest your sexual health from top to bottom, so you can experience all of your body's pleasures, wherever they may be.
Women looking to manifest their sexual wellness, or achieve a sense of sexual health, should consider sex toys. Sex toys like vibrators, dildos, and butt plugs can help you get more pleasure out of your sex life, especially if you're looking to explore different positions with a partner or even masturbate while they're away. Women are total participants in sex—and have their own set of needs, desires, fantasies, and hot spots. And that's okay!
The key is finding products that allow you to be sexually active without discomfort. Vaginal dryness? A good lube is one way to go (literally!). But why stop there? If oral sex or masturbation is something you're into, sex toys could become an important part of your wellness plan, helping with arousal as well as penetration. Don't let these issues keep you from embracing your sexuality. There are natural ways to help ease vaginal dryness—and maintain sexual wellness overall.
Sex tips for men
I once heard a dating expert say that men who want to attract a partner don't need to be funny or good-looking. They need to be confident in their ability to please their partner in bed. If you want sexual wellness, make it your goal to develop confidence in your abilities before making other adjustments.
Confidence is key—but how do you get more of it? Start by learning what your partner wants (because, let's face it, they might not always say they do). There are plenty of online resources with sex tips for men; read up and get a sense of what they like, then go from there. As long as you put some forethought into their satisfaction, chances are you'll also experience great pleasure yourself!
Sex toys are abundant on the market today, all promising to maximize sexual pleasure. However, it is important to know how each toy works and which areas of your body it best benefits before indulging in one-night stands or quickies.
For example, a vibrator placed against your perineum while you masturbate can help you achieve ejaculation sooner, whereas a vibrating cock ring around both penises can create added sensation during intercourse.
Size doesn't matter: In most cases, sex is more about what you do with what you've got. A bigger penis isn't necessarily better if he knows how to use it. Men should think about their penis like a muscle—you might not be able to bench-press 300 pounds, but if you work at it consistently, your muscles will grow stronger over time. Likewise, if a man exercises his pelvic floor muscles (the ones used for sexual arousal), those muscles will also become stronger over time. Consult a medical professional or sex educator who can give specific exercise recommendations based on your body type and goals for best results.
How to create your ideal bedroom with sex in mind
We all have them, but no one ever talks about them. They're called sex toys—and they can be used to spice up a bedroom in a way that will result in more mind-blowing orgasms, and it's no secret that bedroom activities play a significant role in our overall wellness. And while it might seem daunting, there are many ways to design your space in a way that supports sexual health and wellness.
It's no secret that sex toys make for a more sensual and satisfying experience, but when you have an entire room in your home dedicated to pleasure, anything is possible. If you're ready to take your sex life to new heights (literally), then it's time to start planning your ideal bedroom space. Begin by outlining what you want—and then be sure to include everything on your wish list. It might feel daunting at first but try not to get overwhelmed. The more specific you are with what you want in advance, the easier it will be to find all of those items once your project is underway.
The saying location, location, location is important when it comes to real estate. It also holds true for sex toys: not only do you want your toys to be discreetly stored (unless you're ready to share that information with your partner), but you also want them to be in a place where they can easily come into play. Keep your bedroom clean and organized so that adding something like sex toys is as simple as walking into a room of neatly put-away clothes, towels, and linens.
Your bedroom is a powerful place. It's where you retreat when you want to get away from it all, relax, read, or enjoy some me-time. However, if your bedroom isn't set up to support sex-positivity and sexual wellness, it can put your sexual health at risk—both physically and emotionally.
So here are a few ways to create an ideal space for intimacy between two consenting adults:
- Incorporate furniture that allows easy access to multiple positions: Your bed should have enough room for sex-play or sleep, but that doesn't mean you have to sacrifice comfort for practicality.
- Add additional chairs or benches so both of you can sit comfortably while touching each other in new ways.
- Be creative!
References
Canfield, J. (2021, November 10). A complete guide to using the Law of Attraction. Jack Canfield. Retrieved January 12, 2022, from https://www.jackcanfield.com/blog/using-the-law-of-attraction/
Dawsom, A. (2020, August 5). Sex toys: A brief history. TheToy.org. Retrieved January 12, 2022, from https://thetoy.org/sex-toys-a-brief-history/