A fetish urophilia, also known as kink urophilia, refers to an erotic attraction to urine and urination and can take many forms and can range from being aroused by the sight of others urinating to getting sexual pleasure from urinating on someone else or having someone else urinate on you--even drinking it (urophagia) (Laws & Donohue, 2008). There are varying degrees of paraphilia, and however, today, we will discuss this specific paraphilic behavior.
The Basics of Urophilia - The Golden Shower
Fetish urophilia has many names, depending on where you look: kink urophilia, urinophillia, and adult infantilism are just a few. Fetish urophilia is a sexual attraction to urine or urination (Griffiths, 2020). This isn't confused with urolagnia (2022), which refers to seeing or thinking about urine arousal. Some people may only be aroused by seeing someone urinate, while others are turned on by having their genitals or other body parts wet with urine (golden shower).
When used in reference to fetishes, not all sex acts involving urine are considered fetishistic Urophilia. Instead, urine is used as a fetishistic. Another common misconception about urine-based fetishes is confusion between micturition (urination) and defecation. Micturition usually involves stress relief or pleasure, but elimination does not associate with sexual pleasure whatsoever.
The Facts About Urophilia
First and foremost, Urophilia should not be confused with watersports. Although both are sex acts in which urine is involved, they are two different fetishes. Urolagnia (or Urophilia) affects people who get off on being urinated, while watersports involve sexual excitement derived from watching or playing with urine. Some believe that Urophilia should only refer to attraction towards men or women engaging in piss play.
Others believe that attraction solely towards men constitutes a different fetish known as gynolagnia. Regardless, I see no compelling reason for me to change their usage when for our purposes here, we can assume urophile refers broadly to someone who has a sexual interest in peeing on others. Uromania refers narrowly to someone attracted specifically toward men getting peed on, and gynolagnia means attraction towards women getting peed on.
On a side note, I'm aware there are differences of opinion as to whether these terms—urolagnia and Urophilia—are technically correct. However, the couple I've discussed this topic with seem to note that there is a marked difference between being peed on or just sitting and being bathed in piss: one derives pleasure from the warmth and smell of urination as he orgasms; the other derives pleasure when demonstrating dominance, pisses on her partner, during their sadomasochists' trysts and at the same time notes that outside of role-playing, the smell of urine is a complete turn-off.
Are There Legal Issues Around Urophilia?
There are no known legal issues with urophilia. Urine isn't classified as a drug in most countries, so there aren't legal issues around using or producing it either. Likewise, there are no known laws against urophilic activities in most places. Because of that, you don't have to worry about breaking any laws if you engage in urophilic activities.
However, because your fetish partner might use other items like diapers during sex play, and importing those items could be illegal depending on what country you live in and where you come from. For example, importing certain materials for BDSM play can be illegal depending on where you live and what country you originated from.
In addition to websites like FetLife that can help connect people with similar interests (even fetishes), our site stocks novelty merchandise from around the world—items explicitly designed for kinky pleasure! So, if international law isn't your thing, but buying things online is, check us out. I'm adding new products and amazing finds monthly.
Safety Issues with Urophilia
I am a nurse; therefore, the nurse in me won't let the health concerns surrounding this fetish be dismissed: Blood-borne infections and viruses like hepatitis B, hepatitis C, HIV, or human T-lymphotropic virus I and II (HTLV-I and HTLV-II) can be transmitted during contact with urine. This can happen when you lick or touch someone's urethra during sex or penetration. One way to prevent exposure to blood from an infected partner is to use latex gloves and other barriers. Additionally, one should practice safe sex with a barrier between partners if both have been diagnosed with a sexually transmitted infection at any point in their lives.
What to do if your partner is interested in Urophilia?
If your partner tells you that they're interested in Urophilia, you'll want to tread carefully. Remember that, as a fetishist, your partner has needs and desires that may be very different from yours. Even if they're into Urophilia because they like how much it turns them on—and not because of any underlying issues—it's still important to respect their kinks and talk through your boundaries and limits together. If you genuinely don't want to participate in something, say so immediately and openly.
Be sure that your partner understands why, even if it's just for health reasons. Consider asking open-ended questions like: Can you tell me what makes urophilia sexy for you? Is there anything I can do or add to make it hotter for both of us? Can we think about what we might do next time instead?
At times like these, it can also help to remember that having these conversations with partners (and thinking about your sexuality) can expand and enrich sex lives rather than limit them. As one FetLife user (and good friend) said: In our case, my husband's interest in pegging helps me understand him better; he's happier when I'm happy.
Always, play safe my friends.
References
American Psychological Association. (2022.). Apa Dictionary of Psychology. American Psychological Association. Retrieved February 2, 2022, from https://dictionary.apa.org/urolagnia
Griffiths, M. D. (2020, November 8). Salirophilia and other co-occurring paraphilias in a middle-aged male: A case study. ResearchGate. Retrieved February 2, 2022, from https://concurrentdisorders.ca/2020/11/07/salirophilia-and-other-co-occurring-paraphilias-in-a-middle-aged-male-a-case-study/ DOI:10.54127/DLJQ8466
Laws, D. R., & O'Donohue, W. T. (2008). Sexual deviance: Theory, assessment, and treatment (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.